Financial stress can rip a marriage to shreds. It’s the second leading cause of divorce according to marriage.com. Although finances aren’t sexy, you can turn them into your marriage’s ally by following some sound advice.
Set a budget
You and your spouse may have different spending and investing habits. If not addressed, they can lead to friction points in your marriage. A budget creates discipline and predictability for your household. You’ll manage critical monthly costs, such as housing, groceries, utilities, and transportation, more efficiently while building a good credit score. Just as important, a jointly conceived budget allows you to spend discretionary funds more intentionally and with respect for your spouse. Lay the foundation for a sound marriage by creating a budget.
You’ll find some free or inexpensive budgeting apps online. Here is a good resource.
Set some goals
What do you want to do with your money? Your marriage works better when you work together as a team towards your jointly conceived financial goals. For most of us, resources are limited. But for goal-oriented couples operating on a budget, home ownership, retirement, and vacation dreams are within reach.
Financial planners typically advise you to save 15% of your income towards retirement. For some couples, that isn’t enough. For others with school loans and credit card debt, maybe that’s too aggressive.
The point is: set some goals. You have a tremendous financial advantage over your single peers, according to debt.com. Only 29% of singles say they feel financially secure compared to 43% of married couples. According to debt.com, married couples enjoy economies of scale that make a buck go farther. So don’t squander this wonderful benefit of marriage. Discuss your goals and create a budget.
Create a will
In the case of the death of one of the spouses, a will can simplify the grieving process by removing one key stressor. According to fidelity.com it can also reduce your tax exposure:
“Estate laws vary from state to state, but in the absence of a will, surviving spouses without children typically retain only between one-third and one-half of the deceased’s estate. You and your spouse should contact your attorney for more information, and create wills as soon as possible. Be sure to review them every three to five years to make sure they address your changing circumstances.”
DJ Brian Anderson loves weddings and loves to blog on fun wedding topics. Today’s blog may not be as fun as planning your wedding entertainment, but it offers practical advice for a prosperous future.
Congratulations on your new life together.
There are two types of Alabama wedding receptions: regular ones and Photo Booth ones. Photo Booth wedding fun always transforms a reception from a regular affair into something very special.
As a DJ company that specializes in wedding receptions, we marvel at the almost magical pull Photo Booth has on your guests. They won’t stay away from it. They CAN’T stay away because Photo Booth wedding fun is so darn irresistible!
Photo Booth wedding fun!
You’ll have guests at your reception who are extremely shy when it comes to getting up on the dance floor. They’re just not comfortable dancing for a variety of reasons. And yet ultimately they’ll have more fun if they get out of their chairs during the course of your party. Well, Photo Booth is the perfect antidote to shy guests
It’s fun. Inhibitions melt away in an instant as they get caught up in the goofy fun DJ Brian Anderson’s Photo Booth offers.
Alabama Photo Booth company
Our fun props are guaranteed to create delightful photo ops. Memories will be created in an instant and preserved forever by this Alabama Photo Booth company. These are the pics that will flood social media in honor of your wedding celebration.
There’s another reason Photo Booth wedding fun will transform your wedding reception from a regular affair into something very special: it helps to keep the dance floor packed! When shy guests aren’t in the Photo Booth, they’re on the dance floor since Photo Booth has melted away their inhibitions.
It is truly a beautiful thing to behold.
DJ Brian Anderson creates the perfect “organic” party by the fusion of DJ wedding entertainment and Photo Booth wedding fun. When your guests aren’t dancing, they’re at the Photo Booth. When they’re not at the Photo Booth, they’re on the dance floor. It all happens so naturally, so organically, so to speak, in the hands of our professional entertainment team.
Be honest, your wedding reception IS special, and you should strive to realize your dreams with the proven entertainment potential of Photo Booth. Let DJ Brian Anderson transform your wedding dreams into an evening of magic!
The case for marriage keeps getting stronger, because new medical studies reveal that marriage is good for your heart. Make that shockingly good for your heart!
Doctors tell us we need to exercise, because it makes our heart stronger so we live longer. Now medical science reveals that love and marriage is the absolutely best tonic for our heart. Do you want to live longer? Fall in love and get married!
Proof that marriage is good for your heart
Skeptical? Need proof? Here it is. Dr. Arshed Quyyumi is co-director of Emory Clinical Cardiovascular Research Institute and professor of medicine at Emory University in Atlanta. The results of a study of 6051 patients revealed shocking results. Compared to their married counterparts, unmarried people were:
•24 percent higher risk of death from any cause;
•45 percent higher risk of death from cardiovascular disease; and
•52 percent higher risk of cardiovascular death/heart attack.
And specifically, the risk of cardiovascular death/heart attack was:
•40 percent higher for those who were never married;
•41 percent higher for those who were divorced or separated; and
•71 percent higher for those who had been widowed.
“I was somewhat surprised by the magnitude of the influence of being married has (on heart patients),” says Dr. Arshed Quyyumi, lead researcher and professor of medicine at Emory University, in an American Heart Association news release. “Social support provided by marriage, and perhaps many other benefits of companionship, are important for people with heart disease.”
We’ve all heard the term ‘dying of a broken’ heart, and you can see that it’s true in light of the higher risk of a fatal heart attack for those who have been widowed.
Love not only makes the ‘world go round,’ it makes us live long IF we are married.
Love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage!
This study brings to mind a song made famous by Frank Sinatra with catchy music written by Jimmy Van Heusen and timeless lyrics by Sammy Cahn. The song introduced itself to a whole new generation in the opening credits for the television show, “Married with Children:”
Whatever you do, don’t let Al Bundy (above) sour you on marriage, because doctors have the hard data: marriage is good for your heart.
And when in your wisdom you get married, call us in the planning stage for the wedding entertainment that makes the event. DJ Brian Anderson is a proud supporter of love and marriage!
Is a suit or a tuxedo right for your Alabama wedding? Trends change over time. Windsor ties really gained popularity over the past ten years, but now bowties are making a comeback, as you may have noticed on recent award shows. So when it comes to suits vs. tuxedos for weddings, anything goes.
The video below is helpful, as it begins by clarifying the distinction between a suit and a tuxedo. For example, a suit uses plastic buttons and tuxedos use cloth buttons. For example, suits don’t typically include a vest, but tuxedos do. For example, a tuxedo uses satin embellishments, suits don’t.
The most popular tuxedo colors are black, like funnyman Seth Meyers (above) wore when he hosted the Golden Globe Awards, followed by grays, blues, browns, ivory, and white. You’ll also note Mr. Meyers is sporting a bowtie which Hollywood fashionistas are trending towards these days.
The video points out that one of the worst questions asked at a wedding is, which man is the groom? This is a problem when every groomsman wears the same suit or tuxedo as the groom. The video suggests that you coordinate the groom’s tie and vest with the bride’s colors so there is no doubt who is getting married, and have the groomsmen forgo the vest, or wear a different colored vest.
Here’s another tip if you’d like to distinguish your ushers from the rest of the groomsmen: they can wear windsor ties and the rest wear bowties, or vice versa.
Suits vs. tuxedos for weddings: it’s your call
A final thought. Men wear suits to work or a funeral. But a wedding is special. This is your chance to go all out and look the best you’ve ever looked. If you don’t wear a tuxedo now, then when?
Wedding photography is such a wonderful art form. But traditional photography has lost a little popularity over the years. The best photographers have compensated by developing better wedding posing techniques which result in far better planned shots than your parents had.
What to do with the hands?
The problem with so many awkward brides, grooms, and wedding parties is what to do with their hands. We’ve noticed that with the best posed shots, creative photographers have put the subjects’ hands to good use to create a more natural posed look.
With the groom, a simple technique is to simply have him grab his lapel.
For a fun couples shot, the bride can tug on the groom’s tie.
For a fun shot of the groomsmen, the bride can simply put her hands on her hips and let them gawk. Or the groomsmen can put their arms around the groom with their hands held high.
For drama, let the groom simply extend his open hand to his adoring bride.
There are some good photographers we’d be happy to refer you to who have developed artful wedding posing techniques. They know how to make your wedding portraits fun and memorable.
In a previous blogpost, we discussed the four most popular styles of wedding photography. The are: traditional, documentary, fine art, and edgy. Contemporary traditional photography has blurred the lines between these styles with fun wedding posing techniques that put the hands to good use.
When the photographs are finished, we’ll put everyone’s hands AND feet to good use by packing the dance floor. Check out Brian Anderson – Alabama DJ wedding entertainment at its finest.
First dance etiquette for weddings is timeless. We live in an era where some couples go to great lengths to choreograph high energy productions for their first dance. YouTube is full of them, like the one below:
Let’s face it, this approach isn’t for everyone. Here’s the good news: you DON’T need an exotic production. You can stick to the basics. Many, probably MOST, of the readers of this blog are breathing a big sigh of relief over that last sentence. After all, a lot of people are not impressed with their own dancing abilities, and they are pretty shy about having the entire spotlight on them.
You have nothing to worry about! We’ve posted a very nice video below which gives you a quick and easy tutorial on how to dance the good ol’ box step. Even if you’ve got two left feet, the box step is within your reach. Watch this, see what I mean:
First dance etiquette: the basics
Here is the timeless first dance etiquette DJ Brian Anderson uses for Alabama weddings:
√ We introduce you and your wedding party with flair.
√ Bride and groom enjoy their first dance together as husband and wife.
√ Next, the father and bride dance and the mother and son dance.
At this point, etiquette becomes more flexible depending on your tastes and the length of your reception. We’ll review your options in the planning process to be sure all additional special dances and announcements are perfectly timed and MCed.
In the meantime, if you’re a little shy about your first dance, spend a some time with the video above practicing a very user-friendly dance step. And then be sure to check out an earlier blogpost, “Top Ten Classic Songs for your First Dance.”
This blog has written on the subject of the wedding toast on more than one occasion. The subject is important, because a memorable wedding toast is pure magic. At the same time, a toast by your best man or maid of honor can go astray with all sorts of negative consequences.
There is never an excuse for a poor toast as long as your toasters are armed with some basic information, which I am about to reveal.
There is an almost magical secret to giving a memorable wedding toast, and that is the “turning point.” The turning point is the secret sauce, that moment when the toaster reveals what makes the bride or groom so special, and what makes the bride and groom such a great couple.
It is the pay dirt for which everyone awaits.
The video above provides helpful tips on how to write an effective toast. It breaks down the toast into five steps:
- Introduction. Who is the toaster, and what is his/her connection to the bride and groom?
- Great story. Everyone loves stories. Everyone! What are movies and television shows, except stories? Stories are so powerful that Jesus used them as the basis for His teachings. What is your story that involves either the bride or groom, or both?
- Turning point. Here you reveal the secret, that very essence of what makes the toastee tick, and why that bodes well for their marriage. This is that “feel good moment” that makes a good toast soar.
Let’s look at an actual toast I found on YouTube. Whoever posted it labels it as the ‘greatest best man speech ever.’ That it is not. The ‘story’ part of the toast floundered, and the toaster talks more about himself than the groom. However, he redeems himself with a fine ‘turning point.’ Tune in at around the 2:40 mark in the video below to see what I mean:
The toast below is heartfelt. The toaster provides a wonderful story beginning around the 1:40 mark. But he skips the conclusion and the toast itself. And the ‘turning point’ precedes the story:
No criticism intended towards either toaster, each of whom had some good elements in their toast. We can all learn from them in order to write and deliver a memorable wedding toast when our time comes.
Check out an earlier blogpost that offers a memorable wedding toast script. Do you see the ‘turning point’? It is the paragraph immediately following the line, “bring bride into the toast.”
Writing and delivering a memorable wedding toast isn’t rocket science. It takes more heart than science, along with the tips above. Good luck!
[When should toasts be made? DJ Brian Anderson is also a professional MC. We know when to cue up toasts and control the entire tempo of your celebration. You have no worries, other than to celebrate! Our online planning tools are awesome!]
Wedding toasts can be such a wonderful part of your wedding reception. And they can be a disaster in the hands of an unprepared toaster. Here are some really excellent … and PRACTICAL … wedding toast delivery tips presented in the video below.
Tip #1: KNOW your toast. Know it well enough so you don’t need it scripted. It’s okay to have a few bullet points on a note card. But if you’re able to tell a nice, warm story about the bride or groom, you’ll find it really easy to remember and convey your toast.
Tip #2: Make EYE CONTACT. A simple technique to get started is to stand up straight and tall, smile like you’ve never smiled before, and cast your gaze across the room. What expectation you’ll create! You’ll have the audience in the palm of your hand before you even begin talking.
As your toast unfolds, cast your gaze around the room, working every corner of the hall. Are you shy? Are you scared to death at making eye contact? No problem. Before you begin your toast, identify a few people you’re close to in different areas of the venue, and you can focus your gaze on them.
What can be really helpful to you is to make a point to introduce yourself to as many people as you can at the reception before the toasting begins. That way, there are fewer strangers in the hall! And let me tell you, if you look at someone and smile, it is really, really hard for them to do anything other than smile back. Toasting is so rewarding when it begins and ends with a smile.
Tip #3: Be CONCISE. The video suggests a toast can be up to ten minutes. This blogger suggests 3 to 5 minutes is MUCH better. You need to be a master toaster to pull off a ten minute toast. Whatever the length, rehearse. Let me say it again: rehearse and rehearse your toast. You owe it to the bride and groom. Do NOT let it run on too long. Bring it to a nice, clear conclusion with the line:
“Will you raise your glass and join me in toasting this great couple, Mr. and Mrs. [couple’s name].”
Rehearse, rehearse, rehearse
Tip #4: Be CONVERSATIONAL. The conversational approach is intimate and compelling, IF you have properly rehearsed your toast. The worst thing you can do is to have a few too many drinks and let your ‘conversational’ toast drag on and on. (Actually, worse than that is to embarrass the bride and group. But you know better than to do that!) Limit your alcohol. Rehearse. Make eye contact. You’re going to be great!
When it comes to your reception, DJ Brian Anderson provides that impeccable timing that only professional MCs bring to the table. We know how to time the toasts, the cake cutting, and all the key moments of your reception. Get ready for the best day of your life!
Everyone knows that men and women communicate differently. At long last, new technology boosts wedding communication between the genders, setting the stage for a lifetime of marital bliss!
Men tend to view communication as having a purpose, while women view it as an outlet for feelings.
Women want to talk more often and use more words than men.
Men’s listening skills tend to be literally oriented, which can create challenges for women who view conversation as more of a process which does not necessarily seek solutions.
In light of these differences, it was only a matter of time until science developed vital technology that narrows the communication gap between the genders.
Get ready for better wedding communication!
You have to see it to believe it. The video below reveals the medical breakthrough, Hearitol. Watch and listen!
And in case your relationship needs a little more help than Hearitol offers, perhaps you are a candidate for another new technological marvel, the Manslater! The video below provides the details, as well as ordering information:
This blog is always on the cusp of the latest and greatest in everything, including a good laugh.
When it comes to planning your wedding, you’ll find communication is as easy as saying “I do” when you select DJ Brian Anderson to handle your wedding entertainment. We offer easy to use planning tools to make the planning process easy for you.
Vivaldi’s Spring is a very popular wedding processional song. (See our earlier blogpost, “Top classical songs for walking down the aisle.”)
You can listen to it in the video below…
…complete with the violin sheet music. There’s a problem. While you’ll love the happy main theme, it veers off into sections of music that just aren’t conducive to a wedding procession.
Another problem: not every bride and groom can afford a string quartet, the desired combination of instruments for this gem, composed by Antonio Vivaldi in 1725. On the other hand, most weddings feature at least one or two instrumentalists, with piano as the lead instrument.
To simplify your options, we’ve asked a musical arranger to create a playable arrangement for our readers. It features just two instruments, piano and cello. This arrangement only uses those lovely, happy melodies brides prefer. That’s what makes Vivaldi’s Spring such a popular wedding processional song.
You have permission to print this music off and pass it on to your musicians:
Of course, you have another enticing option for your ceremony music: us! DJ Brian Anderson not only provides world class entertainment for Alabama wedding receptions, we can provide any type of music for your wedding ceremony, too.
So if you’d like to hear Vivaldi’s Spring with a full orchestra, no problem! DJ Brian Anderson is the affordable option for brides who don’t want to scrimp on the quality of the music for their wedding ceremony.