The marriage rate in the U.S. began a steady decline in the early 1970s before leveling off around 2009 at much lower levels. Keep reading if you’re not married. Younger Americans have lost sight of the reality that marriage benefits are amazing. A lot of Millennials don’t realize the positive impact getting married can have on your finances, your longterm health, and your future children.
Financial marriage benefits
Forbes Magazine ran a nice piece on the financial benefits of marriage. Forbes contributor, Kate Ashford, spelled some amazing financial marriage benefits you need to be aware of, including:
• Married spouses qualify for an estate tax marital deduction. Not so for domestic partners.
• Married spouses qualify for the gift tax marital deduction. Not so for domestic partners.
• Ms. Ashford goes on to reveal other significant benefits for spouses when it comes to Individual Retirement Accounts (IRAs), Social Security benefits, and health insurance savings. If your spouse dies, you have more protection if you’re married than not.
Some of you reading this view these benefits as an abstraction, something you can deal with way down the road. Perhaps. But when that day comes, you may have wished you had gotten married.
Health benefits of marriage
If the financial marriage benefits are significant, the health benefits are even more significant. As we pointed out in an earlier blogpost [“Marriage is good for your health”], married people:
√ Live longer than single people.
√ Experience fewer strokes and heart attacks.
√ Have a lower risk of depression.
√ Have a lower risk for advanced cancer.
√ Survive longer when cancer does strike.
√ Are better able to survive major operations.
The health benefits for men are especially profound. Both unmarried women and men have much higher rates of depression than their married counterparts, but with men, the differential is glaring. Unmarried men are nine times as likely as married men to suffer from depression.
Marriage is so therapeutic to men, that a married man with heart disease will live an average of four years longer than a single man with a healthy heart.
And did you know that unmarried people spend twice as much time in hospitals as married people?
Okay, you’re going to be happier, richer, and healthier if you get married. Anything else. Actually, yes. I save the best for last.
Marriage benefits to your children are amazing
If you’re ever blessed with children, data shows that kids fare better in families where mom and dad are married. These children are more likely to enjoy longterm health and prosperity than their peers being raised by cohabiting parents. Even more, they are far more likely to avoid the social pathology that afflicts so many of our youth, such as addiction, dropping out of school, and crime.
What’s interesting is that studies from 13 other countries all had similar results: the marriage benefits for children are incalculable.
Marriage benefits begin with a wedding. If you’re planning your wedding, DJ Brian Anderson provides world class entertainment that will propel you into your new healthier and happier lifestyle with flair.
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Do you have two left feet? Here’s some sensible first dance advice.
Does the thought of getting up in front of the world and dancing your first dance as man and wife terrify you? Here’s some first dance advice that will relieve your worries.
You’re not alone, you know. Millions of Americans are afflicted with a bad case of Twoleftfeetitis, sometimes known as Dancefever. It can cause a grown man to break out into a cold sweat, and it’s not pretty.
Are either you or your betrothed afflicted with this malady? Don’t worry, it is curable! Just follow our first dance advice.
You do not need to be a Fred Astaire or a Ginger Rogers to project a shimmering image of elegance on the dance floor. Even more, you do not have to be a Michael Jackson or a Jennifer Lopez to shake your booty with class at the biggest party of your life: your wedding celebration.
You simply need to be you.
3 Steps to a successful first dance at Alabama weddings
There are three keys to a successful first dance that looks so good that you won’t even mind if it is video taped.
Step One: Select a slow song that is meaningful to you.
Step Two: Learn the two step. It’s the simplest dance for a klutz (no offense) to learn. Watch the video above, for it quickly presents the timeless simplicity and charm of this basic dance step. Practice it. You can learn it quickly. You’ll have it perfected within a few practice sessions.
Step Three: Keep it short. Two to three minutes is good. This takes a lot of pressure off of you. Besides, you don’t want your guests to get bored. In our hands, they’ll be itching to join you on the dance floor in short order!
Music and entertainment makes the event. We can help you plan the flow of entertainment from beginning to end. Our MCs know how to make introductions and set up the first dance. Here’s where wedding parties often break down. It is absolutely vital to have a seasoned DJ/MC on your team who knows how to transition from your first dance to a packed dance floor.
That’s what we do. Call us with questions at 256-638-3535, or complete the contact form to check on our availability.
Get ready for your first dance and follow our first dance advice. It’ll be wonderful!
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The scene is tense.
Families come together for a pre-wedding luncheon. An old girl friend of the groom is there. Yikes! This could get pretty uncomfortable. Fast.
What to do? Why it is simple: break into song!
I post above for your viewing pleasure that memorable scene from “My Best Friend’s Wedding” when Rupert Everett does just that. He starts singing that golden-oldie from the 60s, “I Say a Little Prayer for You.”
Before you know it, the whole restaurant is singing along! Aah … if only life were a musical!
Stress-free wedding planning for Alabama brides
Many brides let the process of wedding planning stress them out. I get it. There are a lot of details to get in place. We can help you with the entertainment. We’ll take the stress right out of the wedding planning so you can start having fun again.
In the meantime, take a few minutes to watch this very funny scene starring Julia Roberts. A good laugh always makes the day better … and less stressful.
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Let’s be honest…
A lot of people clench up when they have to make a toast. We’ve created a nice wedding toast script to take the heat off.
Wedding receptions can be especially stressful because the best man and maid of honor often put too much pressure on themselves. They overcompensate by having an extra drink or two and … well, you know how that can go: downhill fast.
We can help.
We’ve created a nice wedding toast script.
Obviously, your toasters aren’t going to use this word for word. But it’ll help them get started.
It’ll channel them in the right direct using the guidelines we wrote about in last week’s blogpost [“How to avoid wedding toast disasters.”]
Ultimately, it takes the heat off since this script lays down some nice parameters for them. Remember: the point of this wedding toast script is simply to help them get started. It is their personal experience with you, and the way that they convey it, that ultimately makes the difference.
Read this wedding toast script and let me know what you think:
“I am truly honored to toast the marriage of [Bride’s Name] and [Groom’s Name].
I’ve never been one to pay any attention to people who claim that they can predict the future. But guess what, I’m going to predict the future: I see a happy, fulfilling married life stretching out before you two, and I could not be happier.
Looking out at this great group of your family and friends who’ve come to witness this watershed event, I can see that they agree with me.
The truth is, I don’t need a crystal ball to know that good things await you in your married life, because I know [Groom’s Name].
[Provide personal anecdote]:
We met when we were in college. We had nothing in common. I’m short, he’s tall. I’m a Packer’s fan; he’s a Cowboys fan. I’m really good looking. And he’s … well, he’s even better looking!
But we both had this thing for rock climbing. I tell you what, if you want to get to know someone, go rock climbing with him.
I don’t know how many times we went out. It’s a lot. One time stood out. We were walking on a precipice some twenty feet above a lake. We heard some splashing in the water below. Suddenly, some kid started screaming like I’ve never heard screaming before in my life. His dog was in the water … and apparently drowning.
Now I thought that God had hard-wired the dog paddle into every dog ever born. But this one must have been a mutant, because it was going down for the last count.
Before I could even fully process the situation, [Groom’s Name] made a mighty leap into the lake below. I’ve got to admit, I couldn’t have done it. But he did. Within seconds, he had the scared pup in his arms and back onto dry land in minutes.
You should’ve seen that kid’s face. I’ll never forget it. I’ll never forget what you did that day.
[Bring bride into the toast]:
Now, imagine what a guy like that would do for a friend. Even more, imagine what a man like that would do for the woman he loves.
I can attest to the fact, [Bride’s Name], that [Groom’s Name] loves you more than anything … or anyone he’s ever loved in his life.
When he spoke that line in the vows about loving you even in ‘sickness and in health, in good times and in bad,’ well he meant it.
And since I’ve gotten to know you and discover what an incredibly wonderful person you are too, [Bride’s Name], I know you meant those vows every bit as much as [Groom’s Name]. You are a beautiful person on the outside, but even more importantly, on the inside.
Some people would say that it’s destiny that brought you together. Well, I would suggest God had something to do with it. Yes, I maintain that the creator of the universe surely pulled some strings to bring you two together, because you are so right for each other.
[Close by telling the audience specifically what they’re supposed to do]:
On this day of celebration, I ask each of you to raise your glass and join me in paying tribute to Mr. and Mrs. [Couple’s Last Name].”
To reiterate, you can’t use this wedding toast script exactly as written. Come up with your own anecdote. Make it warm. Use it to highlight the class, the integrity, and the character of the subject of your toast.
Alabama wedding parties in Huntsville, Birmingham, Chattanooga, Atlanta, Gadsden, Anniston, Decatur, Cullman, Scottsboro, Fort Payne, Guntersville, Albertville, Boaz and all areas in between should share this script with their best men and maids of honor.
Good luck, and cheers!
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Let me guess: you’ve got a well-intentioned best man and maid of honor.
They know you. They love you. And wedding etiquette calls on them to stand up and toast you at your wedding reception.
Beware. These beloved friends or family can morph into your worst nightmare. Don’t let them hijack your wedding reception with an embarrassing, meandering, or never-ending toast.
Beer and a microphone can lead to wedding toast disasters
In fairness, your best man or maid of honor doesn’t want to embarrass you or scandalize your family, but beer and a microphone can be a dangerous combination. A nice, warm three minute toast can quickly devolve into a dozen minutes of booze-drenched awkwardness if you’re not prepared.
Provide your event’s toasters with the following guidelines as provided by Toastmasters International.
- Keep it short and sweet. It is important to get to the point and make people smile. A few minutes is all you need.
- Be careful with humor. Avoid the risque. Under no circumstances should you embarrass the person being toasted.
- Practice. At the very least, jot down a brief outline of what you want to say. If you’re prone to nervousness, you might want to script your toast and time it.
As the bride and groom, this is your party. I encourage you to say something like this to your toasters:
“Thank-you for being my [best man/maid of honor]. I am so honored to have you share this day with me in such a meaningful way. I wanted to be sure you knew that we’d like you to make a brief toast after dinner. You okay with that? We’d like you to keep it fairly brief, 3 minutes … 4 max. Share something special you see in our relationship and wish us well. I know I don’t need to say this, but please, nothing off color or embarrassing.”
Really say something like this to be sure everyone’s on the same page. Or simply print this page off and hand it your toasters (or share the link with them).
Now, let us all raise a glass to honor this beautiful couple. May God richly bless your marriage!
[Check back next week for an actual script for a nice wedding toast. Your best man and maid of honor will love it! In the meantime, Alabama and Tennessee brides can check out our wedding services here!]